Well hello again WebTraveller
In the recent past I have gotten a really good book recommendation and when it’s brought directly to my attention I feel it’s being brought to me because there is something I or someone else may need. Recently a dear friend has been going through some rough times, and well it is nice to know there are connections out there to talk to people. It is a form of therapy. Everyone at somepoint in there life just needs a “safe space” to speak, with out feeling judged or upsetting anyone because of that might need to be said. A concept I never really understood until recently.
However this time WebTraveller due to how new this book is, I can’t say much about its contents, it definately opened my perspective and gave more than a few Ah Ha moments (don’t you just love those?) especially one of Mel’s closing sections of the book truly resonated with me. The area of the book was about lost loves, breakups and a few others items grouped together. Which of late I can relate to all of that but the one thing that stuck out and at was a simple phrase.
In the absence of all the before mentioned items, it was noted to disconnect completely for 30 days, remove any and all reminders of, make your calendar busy, and there’s the item that was stated in the book, with all those thing remember “an idle mind is a terrible thing. “ my head did a shake I looked up and said “Thanks Dad.”
See over the years it was something he told me a lot. “Phil, remember an idle mind is a terrible thing” I have used that when talking with friends, therapist and just in general. To hear this phrase stated in book that was said to me, was the external validation I needed to hear at that place and time. I guess I couldn’t wrap my head around it. Even more interesting to see now that so many other things took precedent over it like it was a quiet voice just sitting there.
Like me the one day (I stated this in an earlier post) about making lunch and getting ready for work, the computer was on shuffle, Madonna’s Frozen come on, the intro lyrics are sung, I picked my head up, looked at the computer and verbally said “are you fucking kidding me?” The first time the song truly registered. Same with the phrase Dad has said, except this time I was in a place using that phrase might have raised more than a few eyebrows. I feel this was something I was meant to finally register in my head, the last few days honestly have been great. Maybe that’s the kick in the ass I have needed.
So now when it seems dim, gray and lonely. I can simply say “Let Them” but you’ll have to read the book to fully understand it.
In closing I would really thank my dear friend who recommended this book. I would also love to thank Mel Robbin’s herself with her team, including her daughter Sawyer. Thank you for truly putting this out there. Your work has been recognized and has been extremely helpful.
For the rest of the world, I hope this is another tool I have come across to share. So much is out there that finding your own truth is difficult. Opinions are just that opinions. Opinions aren’t truth, opinions are the external perception of someone looking back and into a situation. Maybe it should be advice who knows, just had that thought and well why not write it. I guess the mind isn’t idle after all!
Until next time …. +P